I’m thrilled to be posting my first blog to Not Your Usual
Suspects, and to join this “suspenseful” group of writers. Thanks for the
invite. Now to the question of the day.
Should your family become involved in your writing? Some say
they post a message on their office door warning not to be disturbed except in
cases of blood or fire. No one in the household reads their stories until they
appear online or on the shelf. On the other hand, I know of authors whose spouses
cook dinner, help with research, and do many technical/online tasks. So, how
involved should your family be in your writing?
It depends, of course, on your level of trust, time to train said family members, where you are in your life, and, of course, any experience they bring to the table. I started writing novels after my sister announced her first sale. At that time, my family moved and I decided not to take a job. Instead, I volunteered at my son’s school (actually to help him out, but shhh, don’t tell him) and wrote. I’ll admit that having a fellow writer in the family helped motivate me, but she was just starting out, too, and we both had much to learn. I wrote a lot before asking anyone in the family for help. After all, why should an educated (science) person like me, who had been writing various type things her entire life, need help? Boy, did I have a lot to learn.
My
sister read my early manuscripts and being the loving person she is, was kind with
her comments. She suggested things to work on and let me progress. The more
improvement I showed, the more in-depth her critiques became. Now we read each other’s
work and don’t hold back the punches. Then there is my mother we call the
grammar queen. Can anyone say bleeding pages? She worked with a red pen for
years and has recently progressed to Track Changes. Dad is a final proofreader.
My brother and his wife once read an early manuscript and pointed out research
things I’d missed, like it’s not stealthy to flip a rowboat at night with oars stowed
inside. They later picked the topic of a paranormal series I wrote with my
sister, and since have become great brainstormers.
Hubby was another animal all together. While VERY supportive
of my writing, in the early years he didn’t quite “get” how to help. He’d read
things I wrote and say it seemed okay to him. I’d have to quiz him to find the
weaknesses. When I’d ask for suggestions, he’d give me one and then get
offended, as though I didn’t like it, when I asked for more. It took years for
him to get the concept of how to brainstorm. In other words, bandy about the
first suggestion, add six more, and then combine a few to come up with the
solution. I discovered the best time to get him into a thinking mode is to join
him in a place with no distractions. The pool or hot tub works nicely. It has
taken years, but he has become quite adept at helping me find over-the-top, but
perfect solutions to issues. Now he can read for pacing, plot holes, and
overall content. Best of all, he is taking up cooking dinner.
And then there are the kids. While in high school, they
encouraged me, but declined to read anything. Once they graduated from college,
the oldest started to read my action-adventure thrillers (with strong romantic
elements, of course), and gave surprisingly accurate comments about pacing and
research. Hmm, had he learned from osmosis? The youngest prefers my sci-fi, is
still in cheerleader mode (we all need some of that), and claims to skip any
sexy parts.
So don’t discount those around you if at first their
assistance seems impossible or unhelpful. They might just surprise you. Oh, hubby
just walked in and dropped the latest scene on my desk. “Needs more tension,”
he said and walked out. Sigh.
Check out my Daphne du Maurier and Maggie award-winning book
Repossessed (hubby had a big influence on that one) at www.sandyparksauthor.com.
The sequel Outfoxed is coming soon, in which my military (pilot) son and his friends actually
provided some of the research. Thanks for stopping by.
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Posted by Sandy Parks