Does it embarrass you? Do you worry about it? Does it affect your writing?
I have a friend, a well-published author, who writes sex scenes into most of her romance novels. She lives in a small town and has a fairly high-profile day job. It can lead to squirmy situations, like when her (male) colleagues tell her they’ve read her books. Her husband, by the way, doesn’t mind at all. He claims he helps with all her research.
We all know that we have to shoo the editors out of our writing spaces (or in my case, off both my shoulders) before we sit down to write. You have to write the story that’s in you to write, with no regard to the outside world, and if that story contains sex, well, so be it. It’s afterward, when the book is published and everyone who knows you reads it—that’s when things can get a little weird.
Have you ever received comments about the sex scenes in your stories? Do people studiously avoid mentioning them? Do you care?
Have you ever NOT written a sex scene—or anything else, for that matter—for fear of what “they” (parents, siblings, friends, colleagues…) would think or say?
And if we’re being honest—we are being honest, aren’t we?—we could ask the same question about other types of scenes, or even characters. What if you’ve written a gory scene? Or an exceptionally violent one? What if your character is racist, or bigoted, or misogynistic?
Now let’s flip it around. To the readers out there, do you feel that what the writer has written reflects on her? I mean, those ideas—nasty or sweet—came out of her head. They must reflect what she thinks or believes.
Or maybe the writing reflects what she sees around her, or what makes her mad, or what delights her.
That’s what I’m going with.
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