tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post3399449251416309323..comments2024-01-24T05:13:06.164-08:00Comments on Not Your Usual Suspects: Forgive and... Remember?Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11286314155783213006noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-5834367848792868862013-05-28T05:49:20.847-07:002013-05-28T05:49:20.847-07:00Love the cover DJ. And absolutely some lies are ha...Love the cover DJ. And absolutely some lies are harder to forgive than others. Fidelity is a big one. Criminal behavior would be another... <br />Toni Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08348843511453338339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-64672584002928923342013-05-25T14:38:07.971-07:002013-05-25T14:38:07.971-07:00Hi Kady,
Thanks! I love the new cover too. (Actual...Hi Kady,<br />Thanks! I love the new cover too. (Actually, I love all my covers. )<br />Yeah, marital betrayal... that would piss me off. I can't even imagine it. Although if someone's in very bad marriage with a really horrible person, then I can see someone needing the attention/love, but that's getting into a whole other can of worms. It's not so black and white sometimes. Thanks for dropping in and commenting!Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-33912612893347772192013-05-25T14:15:26.566-07:002013-05-25T14:15:26.566-07:00Hi Dee! Forgiving betrayal is a tricky thing, isn&...Hi Dee! Forgiving betrayal is a tricky thing, isn't it? Particularly romantic/marital betrayal.<br /><br />Colette Freedman's "The Affair" looks at the issue from the POV of the wife, the husband and the mistress, with them all coming together for the thought-provoking finale.<br /><br />And you're right - betrayal is a great source of conflict in fiction.<br /><br />Congrats on your recent and upcoming releases. Great new cover!<br /><br />KadyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16348768569703295438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-48947551469553996142013-05-25T14:15:08.808-07:002013-05-25T14:15:08.808-07:00Hi Dee! Forgiving betrayal is a tricky thing, isn&...Hi Dee! Forgiving betrayal is a tricky thing, isn't it? Particularly romantic/marital betrayal.<br /><br />Colette Freedman's "The Affair" looks at the issue from the POV of the wife, the husband and the mistress, with them all coming together for the thought-provoking finale.<br /><br />And you're right - betrayal is a great source of conflict in fiction.<br /><br />Congrats on your recent and upcoming releases. Great new cover!<br /><br />KadyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16348768569703295438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-65005015241496850142013-05-25T13:00:04.182-07:002013-05-25T13:00:04.182-07:00Hi Jean,
Thanks!
Glad you got in! Yeah, I'm n...Hi Jean,<br />Thanks! <br />Glad you got in! Yeah, I'm not fan of the blatant lie, but on occasion, I might tell a little white lie if it spares someone's feelings. Thanks for dropping in! <br /><br /><br />Hi Lynne,<br />Thanks for coming back!! I hear ya. The infidelity lie would probably be a deal breaker for me. Sometimes, people have reasons to lie about other things... sometimes there are extenuating circumstances... chances are, I'll just remember it all. LOL. Thanks for stopping in!Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-39126088635533499422013-05-25T11:29:42.241-07:002013-05-25T11:29:42.241-07:00Love the new and current covers! Wow.
Forgiving w...Love the new and current covers! Wow.<br />Forgiving without forgetting is tricky. If someone has ruined your trust, it spills over to all kinds of other relationships. One lie for a good reason (having nothing to do with fidelity) is hard to grapple with, but doable.<br />Lying for infidelity's sake is something I personally could never forgive.Lynne Marshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17156587180087372120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-70406119295161312772013-05-25T11:09:14.787-07:002013-05-25T11:09:14.787-07:00 So glad to see your post up there, Dee, along wit... So glad to see your post up there, Dee, along with the new cover art. Congratulations and good luck with the releases. And BTW, I hate lying too.Jean Harringtonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-34179695022923053652013-05-25T09:06:57.908-07:002013-05-25T09:06:57.908-07:00Hi Janie,
Thanks!
Isn't there a saying that el...Hi Janie,<br />Thanks!<br />Isn't there a saying that elephants remember everything? Maybe your husband was an elephant in a past life. LOL. I don't know that I hold grudges against people. I wonder if not forgetting is the same as holding a grudge... I'll have to think on that. Thanks for coming by!<br /><br /><br /><br />Hi Marcelle,<br />Thanks!<br />So glad you made it in! I've been very lucky and the cover gods have definitely been with me! Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-26663918119203574032013-05-25T08:21:46.502-07:002013-05-25T08:21:46.502-07:00Congratulations, Dee! Love the covers, too.Congratulations, Dee! Love the covers, too.Marcelle Dubéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18164965676254630066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-74328603926505113832013-05-25T07:46:36.277-07:002013-05-25T07:46:36.277-07:00Great cover! I forgive easily, whereas, my husband...Great cover! I forgive easily, whereas, my husband holds a grudge fovever!Janie Emaushttp://www.inthepowderroom.com/read/me-time/2013-05-saint-vibrator.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-73040638665645919452013-05-24T16:55:02.921-07:002013-05-24T16:55:02.921-07:00Hi Julie,
LOL. You're a funny lady. So glad yo...Hi Julie,<br />LOL. You're a funny lady. So glad you enjoyed the book! The forgiveness is good too! Thanks for popping in!Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-24959621451819205532013-05-24T16:28:51.305-07:002013-05-24T16:28:51.305-07:00This book is awesome - and I forgive you, Dee, for...This book is awesome - and I forgive you, Dee, for not putting it out sooner, LOL!Julienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-40781343423340758222013-05-24T14:21:26.693-07:002013-05-24T14:21:26.693-07:00Hi Rita,
Thanks! The cover Gods have been generou...Hi Rita, <br />Thanks! The cover Gods have been generous with me. LOL.<br /><br /><br />And Helena,<br />Glad I was able to clarify. Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-29258668412555220162013-05-24T13:55:49.230-07:002013-05-24T13:55:49.230-07:00woot! great cover.
Congrats. wishing you many sale...woot! great cover.<br />Congrats. wishing you many salesRitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09054306874904898496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-5838734117388119592013-05-24T12:27:06.777-07:002013-05-24T12:27:06.777-07:00Thanks - I can understand that example.Thanks - I can understand that example.Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01553503435833467369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-31732513294421285352013-05-24T10:21:56.044-07:002013-05-24T10:21:56.044-07:00Hi Helena,
I guess my only "for instance"...Hi Helena,<br />I guess my only "for instance" in forgiving but not forgetting, is if someone tell me a lie and it's discovered, and it doesn't really "hurt" me and they feel remorse, I can forgive them. But I will remember that they lied and therefore, I may not take everything they say at face value again. So, if they are genuinely sorry, I can forgive, but not sure I can forget that they lied to me to begin with. Does that make sense? I can honestly forgive someone, but trusting them completely in the future is a different thing. Keep in mind, I'm talking about blatant lies not misunderstandings or misinterpretations. This is just my opinion though... anyone else might feel differently.Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-73834743179107533052013-05-24T09:36:56.163-07:002013-05-24T09:36:56.163-07:00I'm wondering about the difference between for...I'm wondering about the difference between forgiving and forgetting. If you still remember a wrong which someone has done you, have you actually forgiven them for it? Or have you merely decided that you are not going to make them suffer the consequences of it?<br /><br />Genuine question - I'm truly interested to understand what someone means by forgiving but not forgetting.<br /><br />For myself - I will forgive most things, and I forget them too, but a few are unforgivable e.g. betrayal by someone you love who says they love you. I've found that once trust is gone, so has something fundamental which underpins love - so even if you thought you could forgive, in fact the damage is irreversible. That's slightly different from not forgiving, but there may be a link.Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01553503435833467369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-39931581701242100252013-05-24T09:07:58.582-07:002013-05-24T09:07:58.582-07:00Hi Shirley,
Thanks! Yes, I love my covers!
I'...Hi Shirley,<br />Thanks! Yes, I love my covers! <br />I'll tell you something interesting. Some of the time, depending on the situation and the level of "hurt" I block out the bad stuff completely. Other times... it stays with me. It really does depend on the amount of pain felt from the blow. Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-80265945258111915552013-05-24T08:20:23.930-07:002013-05-24T08:20:23.930-07:00Congrats, Dee J! I love both covers. You must be t...Congrats, Dee J! I love both covers. You must be thrilled with them. <br /><br />Forgiveness is a tricky beast. Like you, I can often forgive but I can never forget. It depends on how deep the hurt is, I suppose. Even if a person can forgive, it's far more difficult to trust again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938431508430656253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-69952002852325653172013-05-24T08:08:44.100-07:002013-05-24T08:08:44.100-07:00Hi Anne Marie,
Thanks! I love my covers too!
I ag...Hi Anne Marie,<br />Thanks! I love my covers too! <br />I agree with you... anytime we're hurt it can be hard to forget. You're so right... it's feeling/remembering that pain/betrayal that stays with us. Thanks for dropping by!Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-26667925639617656972013-05-24T08:03:42.375-07:002013-05-24T08:03:42.375-07:00Love the covers, D.J.! And the books look fantasti...Love the covers, D.J.! And the books look fantastic, too. Congrats on both releases (now and upcoming)!!<br /><br />I try to forgive, but yes, it's hard to forget. I tend to forget the details (so much going on in my head, so there's not enough room, I guess), but the pain is so hard to leave behind. I suppose it's human/animal nature to remember pain so we don't repeat a mistake, right? Survival instinct. ;)Anne Marie Beckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603878676306179018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-90135950069333758842013-05-24T07:07:24.380-07:002013-05-24T07:07:24.380-07:00Hi Clare,
Thank you!
I'm usually a big forgive...Hi Clare,<br />Thank you!<br />I'm usually a big forgiver too. Only if something is done intentionally do I have real problems with forgiveness. Although, depending on a situation, I might have a problem forgiving an attitude. LOL. Thanks for stopping in!Dee J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12299652828227486747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-70417815902081271842013-05-24T03:43:42.955-07:002013-05-24T03:43:42.955-07:00Congrats on the release and Coming Soon, too :). M...Congrats on the release and Coming Soon, too :). Marvellous cover!<br /><br />I've said "I won't forgive that" too many times, and then relented, to think the human spirit and love aren't resilient enough to cope with most things. But only of course if there's genuine remorse and an intention to make things better in future! <br /><br />What a thoughtful post, Dee:)Clare Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09392142798976142547noreply@blogger.com