tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post1660511505285229148..comments2024-01-24T05:13:06.164-08:00Comments on Not Your Usual Suspects: Do you have protection?Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11286314155783213006noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-68225768782408816562011-06-02T20:26:10.926-07:002011-06-02T20:26:10.926-07:00GREAT reminders/advice! (And even better pictures...GREAT reminders/advice! (And even better pictures!)Alexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671871950908006851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-72936108376350766442011-06-02T07:35:25.723-07:002011-06-02T07:35:25.723-07:00Thanks guys--it can be a real shock the first time...Thanks guys--it can be a real shock the first time. I think of it as my naked hermit crab stage :) I've been hellish lucky with reviewers (touch wood) but there's always someone happy to make a scathing comment. And, Elise, I am keeping him :) He's a sweetheart.Toni Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08348843511453338339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-50788418123619518312011-06-01T11:55:59.679-07:002011-06-01T11:55:59.679-07:00Toni, thanks for the eye candy! :)
I'm defini...Toni, thanks for the eye candy! :)<br /><br />I'm definitely NOT Lady Gaga and admire people who can put themselves out there that way. (Though, technically, I think having personas like that is a kind of armor in itself.)<br /><br />For the most part, I have no regrets about putting myself out there (in the form of my stories), but then, my book doesn't come out until September. Ask me again then. LOLAnne Marie Beckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17603878676306179018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-24167762494376066972011-06-01T09:47:23.498-07:002011-06-01T09:47:23.498-07:00So, so true. I've developed a thick skin over ...So, so true. I've developed a thick skin over the years, but it's taken a lot of stern lectures to myself. We writers are usually shy, retiring types and yet we want our work to be read - and loved. It's difficult. <br /><br />I used to cringe when strangers asked "What do you do for a living?". I'm over that. Now, I try to sell them a book. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938431508430656253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-31261257413171492162011-06-01T09:00:06.507-07:002011-06-01T09:00:06.507-07:00You said it all, Toni. Oh--keep that husband--he&#...You said it all, Toni. Oh--keep that husband--he's a winner.Elise Warnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12111849185666548945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-52817187293151049302011-06-01T08:24:44.467-07:002011-06-01T08:24:44.467-07:00Marcelle
You're right we are all NUTS. LOLMarcelle<br />You're right we are all NUTS. LOLRitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09054306874904898496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-86498189734023906432011-06-01T08:23:44.776-07:002011-06-01T08:23:44.776-07:00It's easy to curl up into the fetal position w...It's easy to curl up into the fetal position when someone has something bad to say about your writing, but if you hold your breath for thirty more seconds, someone has something good to say about your books. So I've developed an erratic breathing pattern, but I'm working on the thick skin.<br />If one reader comes forward and says, "I couldn't put your book down", then it's all worth it. Now, if they had my book up in the air to kill a fly...well, that's a different story. :)Maureen A. Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16432964748852427405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-13736984977724189352011-06-01T08:23:00.883-07:002011-06-01T08:23:00.883-07:00I have several areas where I’ve built armor for wr...I have several areas where I’ve built armor for writing protection. The first is the ‘comments when I say I’m a ROMANCE writer. I say it quite loud now BTW. When I first got the “I don’t read THOSE kinds of books” and “Those books have no plots and are nothing but filth” it really threw me. Now they can’t pierce my armor and I sling a few arrows back. To the THOSE kinds of books comment I give the person a good up and down look smile knowingly and say “I know. I can tell.” I sometimes ask if they’ve ever read one and they always answer no. Even though I can tell, some are lying. Anywho I say if you never read one how can you say you don’t want to read them? Gotcha! To the others I sweetly ask to define plot and filth. I ask what they read instead and it is always the NYT best sellers. So I rattle off some romance NYT BS’ers and I’ve had some say oh yes they love those books. And I love the look on their faces when I say those are romance books sista. Actually had two tell me I was wrong- Brenda Novak and Roxanne St Clair do not write romance. <br />Everyone needs to understand bad critiques and contest comments are only the harbinger of things to come in the big time-reviews. And there will be some we don’t like or I should say don’t like our writing. Curl into a ball and suck you thumb for awhile and move on. <br />Is anyone out there a chemist? How about developing a cream authors can slather all over them to deter all of the above.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09054306874904898496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-80454158800658598182011-06-01T07:59:50.514-07:002011-06-01T07:59:50.514-07:00I like your inspiration, Toni. You're absolut...I like your inspiration, Toni. You're absolutely right, of course. Writers do need to develop a thick skin or quit. It's a weird juxtaposition--most writers are by nature introverted, yet we toss our babies out into the world to be judged and thus leave ourselves open to other people's opinions of our parenting skills. We're all nuts.Marcelle Dubéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18164965676254630066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-81404793079116979362011-06-01T07:56:04.119-07:002011-06-01T07:56:04.119-07:00Very true. Early in my writing career, a published...Very true. Early in my writing career, a published member of my RWA chapter gave me a scathing critique and I considered throwing in the towel. I've since grown a thick skin to rejections, negative reviews and hurtful comments. It's all worth it in the end.Wynterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13611293420659353094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7545210782126483136.post-86414405981995822642011-06-01T07:50:53.385-07:002011-06-01T07:50:53.385-07:00Oh my goodness, what wise words! I really think we...Oh my goodness, what wise words! I really think we have no idea when we make that first submission that there are so many people out there, who will read it, love it, hate it, judge it, ignore it, tell you what they think about it whether you want to hear or not etc. That is, many more than your closest family and friends :).<br /><br />To me that's the great difference between writing and publication - making yourself vulnerable.<br /><br />And while I *also* like to hide behind the sofa (have we got a big enough sofa for us all ...?) I've been practising the armour impression ever since. I think I'm more Boudicca than Game of Thrones...LOL.Clare Londonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09392142798976142547noreply@blogger.com